It’s impossible to calculate the times we have been told in our lives …‘you live on your own planet’ trust us it’s a lot. What people mean when they say this is that we don’t conform to what they deem as ‘normal’. Over the decades we have felt more and more like outsiders, and yes in many ways less and less ‘’normal’’. To be honest, it has taken a lot of pain, several names/pseudonyms and a lot of soul searching to reach a point of acceptance where ‘living on your own planet’ has become a badge of honour and our sites’ name. We now understanding that running with the herd, thinking inside the box and just fading into the background as we age was never going to be our thing, even if we wanted it.

So WELCOME to our little piece of the web, our grove, our reality, our little patch of difference in a sea of magnolia thought. You could start by checking out over 12 years of posts which question everything through ideas and art and where we open up about our hopes, fears and yes dare we say, normal everyday life. Otherwise continue reading to find out a little bit more about the two of us that make up ‘The Family Voss’

Thanks for stopping by and keep checking back as we add new sections and elements to the site. As of writing this in August 2020, we are working on another new beginning for ourselves and the site. Stay safe and never ever give up your own unique planet just to fit in. A.Voss

A 90’s selfie aka standing in from of a mirror with a camera
oh to be young again (A is on the left – T on the right)

About A Voss
Born in the late 60’s into a sleepy Middlesex suburb on the Metropolitan line, it became obvious to me I saw the world differently. From an early age I enjoyed making people laugh, which I did often. However, society can be very cruel to its jesters. While I had a different first name in those days, you wouldn’t have known it as I was called moron, idiot and spack more often than anything else, obviously it goes without saying I did not like that very much. Bullied until my early teens, I grew up rather socially awkward and conflicted as I still am today. I am someone just begging for attention who would rather never be seen. I left school at 16 and never looked back. Taking a job in the family hardware store, I started creating artwork in my spare time. Eventually I held a few local exhibitions, but my art was as ‘weird’ as me and not really what the ‘norms’ wanted.

Then in 1993, I moved to creating art digitally whilst taking a course at the Art Institute of Seattle on desktop publishing. I found the medium I had been waiting for all my life. Upon quitting the course, I just let my imagination run wild. Purchasing my first digital camera in the late 90s, I coupled photography with my knowledge of digital manipulation giving me even more scope. I enjoyed turning people ‘typically women’ into warriors, vampires and fairies. I was lucky enough to have owned my own photography studio for a while, but I soon got bored dealing with people and their unrealistic demands. Returning to a more artistic side, I then created digital images for meditation and contemplation using photos I had taken in nature. Nowadays I am just happy looking after my wife and creating images for the pure joy of it.

So, like most ‘Arty Types’ as my father would call me when he was alive, I have always been ‘different’ and have loved and hated that in equal measure. I believe difference is good, even if in the eyes of those who seek to separate and alienate, I’m just another deluded fool. You see, I know only too well what is said about people like me that don’t follow the ‘conventional wisdom’ dogma of the day and what can happen to them… Jesus on the cross comes to mind. However, don’t think for one second you know me, for seldom have I ever subscribed to the pre-approved and pre-packaged ways of seeing this world and what lies beyond. My world, social and spiritual views and thinking have no church party or group. Over the decades I have never been able to find a tribe where I would be truly welcomed or feel at home.

Please note I have no wish to change people’s minds or get them to see the world ‘my way’. However, I would like society as a whole to  ‘wake up’ and start thinking for themselves instead of following the flock. ‘When you follow the herd, you end up with other people’s shit on your shoes’… I seek only to reassure those who feel, as my wife and I do, that they are not alone. I think likeminded people do tend to gravitate towards each other, but we are seldom the types to ‘form a club’, in fact such an idea is an anathema to people like us. A few years ago, I would of said this is a site for ‘the freaks’ and meant it with love, now we have entered a more sensitive time I say it’s a place where difference is tolerated and indeed at times celebrated.
– A Voss

A shadow of our former selves 2015

Who is T Voss aka Lady Deadheart
Well that is a question not easily answered. I can make a list of things and roles I play in life but that is not me. I am so much more. But I will start the conventional way.

An Anglo-American born into a family with three older siblings and awesome yet feisty parents. My mum was English and married one of those American servicemen lol. In fact, my parents both were married five times. two times to each other, you would think they would have learnt.. I spent most of my early years travelling from town to town as a military brat, but these experiences made me who I am today. I am not afraid to try new things, I am comfortable talking to pretty much anyone, I love learning about cultures, history and traditions from all over the world.

Growing up was fairly easy for me. Initially, I was bullied because of my lisp and always being the new kid. But the bullies soon stopped when I grew taller and of course faster than them. I excelled at school owing to the fact I have a photographic memory now called an eidetic memory. I could just bring whole pages of information into my head, seeing them as if I was reading them then and there. At this early age I discovered my two passions in life maths and music. I whizzed through maths problems and adored music. I played the clarinet & saxophone and dabbled in various other instruments too.

I was always planning to go into the military like my parents and their parents before, but a cruel twist of fate at the age of 17 stopped all my dreams. I was accepted to both Annapolis Naval Academy and the US Coast Guard Academy but in March of that year I was diagnosed with type one diabetes, and I was not allowed to attend either prestigious school. So, I went completely the other way and obtained my degree in civil engineering in the UK. This is where one fateful night 😊 I met A. Voss at a nightclub called Paradise Lost (which kind of says it all really lol)

From that point, 30 years ago, we have been living our lives together, having some amazing experiences and also some heart breaking ones. We have both lost our parents now. And in another twist of fate, 5 years ago I was diagnosed with chronic pulmonary sarcoidosis. A disease which can be harmless to some, but not in my case. It ravages my lungs and body so now daily I take immune suppressants and thank god I can still breathe and live. I have overcome many battles in life but this one is quite a challenge especially in these dark times of COVID-19
T. Voss

Embrace your differences don’t try to prey it away